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Last time, I introduced what Relational Wisdom was, to set the stage for looking at biblical examples of people living a full RW life. If you missed the intro you can find it HERE. Today, I wanted to look at Daniel and his friends who were taken from their home to serve in king Nebuchadnezzar.
You don’t have to get far into the book of Daniel to find out that he is living a full 360° RW life. In fact, we get a picture of his 360° life in chapter 1:8-21. Nebuchadnezzar took all of the best youth from neighboring lands. These youth were strong, of noble blood, and beautiful to look at. Once they were all gathered in one place, the instructions were to teach them literature and language of the Chaldeans for the next 3 years. Once the education was complete the youth would then enter into the service of Nebuchadnezzar.
Daniel and his 3 friends, taken from the land of Judah, purposed in themselves not to go against the teachings and service of God, which is the very thing Nebuchadnezzar didn’t want because he wanted them to be in full service to him. Daniel examples his dedication to God by not taking the king’s choice food and wine. He was fully aware of who God was and knew that even if he didn’t take the king’s choice food that God would sustain him. This is God Awareness & God Engaging. Daniel knew his God and knew how to live to please Him.
Because Daniel was faithful to God, he was given favor in the site of the chiefs who were responsible for training all the youth. Even though the chief was afraid of Nebuchadnezzar, and what might happen to him if he allowed Daniel to follow his God instead of Nebuchadnezzar, he gave Daniel the time to be tested. Daniel asked, give me 10 days to eat in a way that pleases my God, and then compare my appearance to that of the other youth. Now, it was up to the chief to ensure that all the youth would be healthy, strong, and stay beautiful and Daniel was aware this as well as being aware of the chief’s fear. Daniel exampled other awareness & other engagementby offering a timeframe for the testing and prove that the chief’s name would not be ruined.
Finally, Daniel knew who he was in the sight of God (self-awareness) and it compelled him to stay true to what he believed (self-engaged).
Look, it’s not rocket science. When we have awareness of interests, talents, and values of God, self, and others our engagement (or behaviors) that follow tend to be healthy. I often will work with clients on identifying their values as a way to build awareness around what is important. As we work through these values together and clarify what that means in every aspect of their life, when they have to make decisions about how to act it becomes easier to make healthy choices.
For example, I exercise so I can be pain free. Clarifying the reason, I exercise, to this simple phrase, makes it easy to decide if I’m going to get to the gym on days when I don’t really want to go. Because if I don’t exercise I start to experience physical pain. There are many areas of my life where I have been able to simplify why I do what I do.
These are just a few I worked on, and I also did the work to clarify the details of the statements even more. If there are areas of your life where you feel lost or unsure what your next move is, I encourage you to start coaching with me. We will take some time to clarify your values clarify how best those values are fulfilled in different parts of your life.
I coach on-line via Zoom, and you can find a time that works best for you through my calendar. There is an option to choose a free 30-minute call or to go directly to schedule a full 1-hour session. Trust me when I say, that I consider it the highest privilege to be a part of your journey and I hope you will take me up on my coaching services.Tags: Biblical examples, Coaching, RW
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